My McDreamy is McGoneand so I Netflix
I pay for cable. I pay a lot of money for cable.
The one cable box we have? It’s in my parents’ living room. If I’m in the mood to watch junkyard wars, every kind of bush / naked / alaska people argue it out on screen, or deadliest catch ad nauseam… I could watch all the TV I want, 24 hours a day.
Sadly (or thankfully, depending on where you stand) none of these interest me and I get twinges of cable withdrawal syndrom from time to time. Mostly in the summer when all the shows are on break.
So I Netflix. A lot.
When my television alerted me new episodes of Grey’s Anatomy were now available, I had the brilliant idea to binge-watch from the very beginning.
Do you remember those first few seasons? Addison, living in the trailer with Derek. Derek & Meredith, sharing a dog. Becoming friends.
The way Shepherd looks at Grey – the crinkling of his eyes as he laughs from the heart. His gentleness and compassion as he helps her through rough moments. The sadness in his eyes when she’s not looking.
I had my McDreamy.
An old boyfriend, married (as I was), a friend. Perhaps the only friend who knew all of me.
The way Derek looks at Meredith? He used to look at me that way. Our friendship evolved over the years, going from the ‘happy b-day / merry xmas’ type, to the once a month chat kind, to the weekly and eventually almost daily chats.
We laughed – a lot.
We were there for each other as a sounding board. Comforting, supporting, and helping each other out through our respective marital issues.
The tension was always there. I spent years making sure our conversations didn’t cross the line, reigning it in when it got too close to too much. We were both so miserable… He was my cheerleader, never failing to believe in me. We were the escape we both needed.
I don’t need to tell you what happened next – I’m sure you can figure it out.
I tried leaving my husband a few times, but he always begged for me to keep fighting for us.
He found out about a year ago and by then we were truly having an affair, having seen each other a few times over the previous months.
Needless to say, my McDreamy is McGone.
I still think of him. I still reach for the phone when I need a joke, or when I come across an article I think he would like. And then I stop myself, because he’s no longer there. I am dead to him, and he to me. Or he should be. But I still think of him.
I miss him, our friendship, the easiness between us.
So as I navigate this world of dating I fill the empty moments with Mer/Der screen time.
What are you binge-watching these days? What fills up your moments?
As a member of the Netflix #StreamTeam I get perks, but all stories, laughs, and heartbreaks are my own 😉